Coaching vs. Therapy

Coaching vs. Therapy 

 Counseling is more focused on solving painful problems from the past-Coaching is focused on finding creative ways to reach one’s potential  in the future 

 Counseling guides clients toward experiencing relief through recovery-Coaching is driven by one word- results in peoples’ lives   

  

Counseling helps people build support systems to stabilize their lives-Coaching guides clients toward strategic ways to maximize their lives 

      Counseling develops healthy emotions and relationships to experience peace-Coaching builds healthy patterns with accountability to experience personal power 

        Dwight Bain, Christian Counseling Connection, Vol 17, Issue 2, American Association of Christian Counselors

Dwight Bain Life Works Group

                            

Life coaching with Joyce has been a tremendous blessing in my life. It has helped me to establish a framework to bring order to an otherwise chaotic household with five children and a family business. Thank you for all your time, insights, and efforts to help our family. Diane

FREE 30 Minute Sample Session

In our sessions we will work together creating a crystal clear vision of your current activities and how they are lining up with God’s priorities for your life. 

Together we will uncover what your personal challenges are and which activities and beliefs are sabotaging your ability to make the necessary changes to balance your life or make progress toward that goal.

There is hope. We can create steps and inspire you to balance your life, release some of your stress and know that you are living your life according to God’s priorities for you.

Call Joyce at 830-227-5500 or email at Joyce@SetFreeLifeCoaching.com.

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Garage Sale Purge

Garage Sale Purge

Purge your home of excess items and make extra cash. Your unused possessions may fill another person’s need. When you keep things from your past you no longer use, often you will stop moving forward to new goals and relationships. Make the hard choices. Find a new freedom by only living with belongings you love and are useful in your life today. 

KEEP

1. Only items you have used in the last 6 months
2. Items you love
3. A few belongings with special sentimental value 

GIVE AWAY OR SELL

1. Everything you have not used in the last 6 months
2. Anything you don't love 

THROW AWAY

1. Trash
2. Broken and unusable items 

3 STEP GARAGE SALE PURGE  

1. Make a list of all the rooms in your home.
2. Plan to purge 1 room per day.
3. Give all items not sold at your garage sale to a local charity

Let's Talk

Let's Talk

# 12- Love that Lasts

In our first fifteen years of marriage we had collected orange bedspreads, lamps, rugs, and even an orange chair.  While on a two day road trip to visit his family, I worked up the courage and told my husband I didn’t like the color orange, his favorite color.

Fortunately the trip provided plenty of time for talking and figuring out how we were going to solve this problem. We couldn’t get rid of all the orange in our home right away, so we slowly changed our color scheme to colors we both liked, adding a little dark blue and forest green.

Couples need daily, weekly and annual times to talk without the children. When our kids were little we chatted while they slept.  As the boys got older, we had coffee and tea in our bedroom after dinner to connect and stay in touch with the major events of our day.

You fell in love dating, doing fun activities, talking and getting to know all about this man with whom you would spend the rest of your life. Continue dating your mate; it is the best way we and other couples have found to keep the spark alive. Each week enjoy some activity you both like and plan for some special intimate time.

No money or time for dates you say, or I’m too tired? Have you chosen to create a marriage that will last? Then you will need to date your man again. Get creative, make the changes and stop the excuses. It’s worth it!  

Our dates each week often didn’t require a babysitter and have been close to home, free or very inexpensive. Here are some of our favorites.

·         Enjoy coke and candy bars in the back yard

·         Get donuts and coffee

·         Eat a  home cooked dinner in a unique location

·         Go for a drive

·         Eat lunch out or at home alone while the kids are at school

·         Study a book together on marriage or communication

·         Take a walk in the woods or around the neighborhood 

 We took our first overnight date when our sons were two and four. I arranged for the baby sitter and after my husband got home from work we rushed out for dinner-alone. A night together in a local motel without disturbances from the children, making dinner, toys to pick up or washing clothes and dishes-it felt wonderful.  More in love and rejuvenated after less than 24 hours on our own, these getaways became a priority in our annual budget.

 Honest communication each day, weekly dates and an annual overnight get away are the key ingredients for great communication between a husband and wife.

Ageless Style

Ageless Style

Are you wearing outfits really meant for a twenty year old? Ok, if you are twenty then don’t dress like a teenager. But the rest of us need clothes for the bodies we have today, not the ones we wish we had.  Covering up in big baggy gear doesn’t make you look any thinner either. You just look like a big bag.

Ouch! Did I step on your toes? I know you can look great no matter what your size or age! 

Embrace these tips today and develop your own “Ageless Style.”  

__Wear mostly classic clothing with just a touch of something trendy- think 1 item- an accessory, jacket or shoe

__Rely on your neutral basic pieces for most outfits with a few bright colors to give a bit of punch

__Dress with confidence- how you dress tells others how you feel about yourself and what God has created- a BEAUTIFUL YOU!

Where's Home

Where’s Home?

Ever feel like you have no place to call home sweet home; that you are always being uprooted? Many of our sisters in the Bible moved frequently and their homes were not always ideal either. Elizabeth George describes some of their quarters in Beautiful in God’s Eyes.

“Eve cared for a garden. Mrs. Noah managed an ark. Sarah was queen of a tent. Esther lived in a palace in a foreign land. Mary spent time in a stable. Peters’ mother-in-law offered the gift of hospitality in her stone dwelling.”

Women in the Bible frequently didn’t get to stay in the same location all their lives. Ruth returned to the country of her mother-in–law after her husband’s death. Rachel left her parent’s place, moving their tent and belongings as they went. Moses’ wife traveled with him in desert. After fleeing Egypt with all their possessions, the Israelite women moved many times in the next 40 years before settling in the Promised Land.

We’ve moved 20 times so far in our marriage. We’ve made our home in a 1950’s style beach bungalow, a basement studio, at the lake, over a clock shop, in stairwell apartments, in the “bug” house, and “doll” house.  

Wherever you reside, know that it is God who sent or allowed you to be there and He has a plan for you in that place. It is not the worst place on earth, but God’s chosen location for you to make your home and take care of your family. Be at peace with where you live looking for God’s goodness and purpose in your current setting. Allow your heart to call this new place Home Sweet Home.

A Whole Lot of Fun

A Whole Lot of Fun

What an awesome way to spend the day! Joyce helped me to reorganize my wardrobe, make some hard decisions about some bad choices (get rid of them) and embrace who I am...uniquely created by a loving God. I have a great basic wardrobe and a shopping list ready to go so that I can fill in the "blank" spots. What I expected to be a rather painful process turned out to be a whole lot of fun. Thanks again, Suzi

Wardrobes That Work

•Ability to find what you need in your closet.

•Outfits to wear for every occasion of your life.

•Accessory Know How~ Just the right touch!

•Age Appropriate Dressing from head to toe!

•Eliminate frustrations by saving Time and Money!

•STOP buying things you never wear!

PLUS BIG BONUSES!

Ø   Color Analysis

Ø    Basic Wardrobe Plan

Ø    Shopping List

Ø    Accessories 

 

Ø In Your Home

Call today!

Fast, fun and we're done!

Joyce@SetFreeLifeCoaching.com 

830-227-5500

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Doing It His Way

 Love That Lasts

Doing It his Way

10 out of 14 

I do not like the word submission. After living through five years of an abusive marriage and trying to do everything my first husband wanted, that word submission brings up all sorts of bad memories and visions of negative subservience.

             What do we do with this word many of us don’t like? The Bible says in Ephesians 5:22, “Submit to your husbands as to the Lord.”

            We choose to accept Christ and follow God’s truths and principals. He doesn’t force us to do things His way; we willingly surrender to His authority.

            God wants us to willingly submit to the man we married; to adapt to his authority and figure out how to do things the way he likes them.  This does not include sexual or physical abuse, nor does it include breaking the law.            

            My husband and I were shopping at Wal-Mart. As we went to the counter, he stood in one line and I went to another to make our purchases. I thought, “I like my line because it’s shorter and we’ll get out of here quicker.” 

            It wasn’t really worth an argument to ruin part of our day over standing in line, so I moved, stood by my man and got out of the store peacefully.  Now when out shopping I simply ask, “Which line are we getting in?” and I go where he wants to go. In this small thing I figured out how to do things his way.

            With your ideas, insights and perspective, you can have a positive influence in the decisions your husband finally makes. Your opinion does matter, but when both of you try to lead you act more like a two headed monster going nowhere. Instead choose to follow and see what God does with the situation.

            Submission has nothing to do with equality. Men and women are equal, but we have been assigned different roles. Neither role is superior. The Trinity models this concept. The Persons in the Godhead are equal in power and in substance, but each has a different function.  

            Larry Crab once said “Submission is resisting the urge to control.” Respect your husband’s God given authority. He can’t lead if you won’t follow.

            The more I trust God, the more I learn to adapt and figure out how to do things the way my man wants. He in turn becomes willing and eager to hear my opinions and listen to my comments.

            God wouldn’t have told us several times to follow our husbands if we did it automatically. So how big is your God? Can you trust Him to lead you through your husband?